Bondage for beginners...

When talking about bondage one must be clear of the definition given. The simplest terms are the restriction of someone’s movement using restraints for sexual pleasure. The most important thing to keep in mind is that bondage shouldn’t be practiced unless complete trust is a part of the relationship.

Experimenting with bondage can be a fun way to heat up a relationship and many people have dabbled with one variation of ‘tie and tease’ or another. Tie and tease is more or less what it sounds like, one partner is restricted by restraints (the bottom or submissive) while the other takes control of situation (the top or dominate) and determines how much stimulation their partner receives. Once again the aspect of trust must be emphasized as one of the partners involved will be restricted and very vulnerable. Thoroughly discussing what each partner is comfortable with and creating a safe word that automatically ends the game beforehand is advisable.

The attraction to this type of play stems from various desires, some people enjoy being given direction and taking orders, given the chance to relax and be provided with pleasure without directly giving it back. Some people enjoy the adrenaline rush that is brought on from rougher sex, play-struggling, and the strong sense of trust that is gained from knowing their freedom is being placed in their partners hands. The person on top benefits from increased power over their partner, however the sexual gratification of both partners should always be the goal, bondage play should be about pleasure for both partners, not abuse.

Here are some tips for bondage first-timers:
-Keep things simple, use restraints that can easily be broken such as paper or thin chains (giving the restrained partner the ability to free themselves when desired)
-Switch things up, take turns being tied up and being the one who ties your partner up
-Use something comfortable like silk scarves or fur lined love-cuffs
-Using a blind fold or mask can be very sensual, having one sense taken away can heighten other sense when being kissed, licked or massaged.
-Set up a safe word, this is special word that both partners agree on before the game starts, once this word is said during play the game ends no questions asked
-Try using fetish tape both as lingerie and restraints
-Use of edible body paints and massage oils on a restrained partner can be delicious and exciting for both partners.
-A variety of bondage kits can be found which include several items to get you started!

You should only try bondage play with a trusted partner, (don’t try it with someone you have just met!) talking about things thoroughly beforehand is a good idea.

Here are some pictures of some of products described in this article and available here at X-Citement Video.

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Bondage kit: Comes with everything a beginner needs, safe candle, small whip, fur cuffs, nipple clamps, bondage rope and a bullet to tease your restrained partner.